Life with the Shirley Family

Life with the Shirley Family

Friday, January 7, 2022

Life in a back brace

It has been one month for me in my back brace post surgery.  It still seems unreal that I had to have and then had back surgery.  Of course I have a nice scar to remind me...well in the future when I can twist and turn around and see it!

But one month post back surgery, these are some of my thoughts.  For me, the surgery was worse and better than expected.  I knew that getting cut open would be painful, but I didn't know it would hurt so much and be so hard to move from sit to stand!  Also getting out of bed was hard at first.  Before I had trouble because of leg pain.  Then it was because of back pain.  The worst pain was the first week and then it started getting better.  And then it started itching!  But that was a good sign, just itchy!  

And it was also not as bad I thought it would be.  I was walking the first day and have been moving more and more each day.  Also, when the doctor was doing the surgery, he said that the nerve popped back into place!  This was what they wanted to see happen!  After surgery, the leg pain and numbness were gone!  I have had very mild numbness that started later, but the doctor said that may happen.  And even that is going away.  Overall, the surgery seems to have been very successful!  If you ever end up needing spinal surgery, my advice would be to not wait.  From what I have learned, the longer you wait, the more damage can be done to your nerve and more numbness and pain post surgery is likely  

And you should schedule it in the winter!  This back brace is hot!  Even over winter, although in Charleston it isn't that cold, I am sweating under the back brace.  If it was summer, ick!

Having worn this brace one month, I only have two more to go!  Also, right now I have two more weeks in which I can't lift more than 10 pounds.  Or do much house work!  It has been nice to have a person clean my house (I have her number if you want it!); and slowing down has been good; but it can be frustrating to have clothes in the washer and need someone else to move them to the dryer.  And dropping something on the floor usually means that I just leave it there!  Also, putting on shoes and socks is challenging.  Sometimes I just ask Dave to tie my shoes as it gets tiring pulling my legs closer to me since I can't bend over.  The other thing that is hard to do when you can't bend over is shaving legs. Another good reason to have surgery in the winter!  But winter does mean wearing long sleeves and sometimes that means my sleeves catch on the Velcro, which is a pain.  The brace also makes going to the bathroom an ordeal because you have to get your pants out from under the brace; and when finished, you have to redress and put the brace back on.  I do use my brace to hang my keys when I go into a store.  This is because my purse it too heavy to carry and my pockets are hard to get to with the brace holding my shirt tail down.  So I have to carry my keys, phone and wallet all in my hands; and have someone else push the cart.  Online shopping and pickup has been much easier than coordinating people and things!  

Right now I have learned to do things differently.  Since I can't bend, I have to squat to get to lower cabinets. But I have learned I need to squat evenly or my hip hurts.  Or I get on my knees to get things out of lower drawers.  Then I use my arms and a counter to pull myself up.  If something is on a top shelf, I have to stand on my toes, instead of just reaching up, to put less strain on my back.  My biggest hack is tying my charging cords to the arm of my chair so they don't fall on the floor.  And it is a good thing my new car has a back  up camera as I can't turn around when I am driving! 

But I am determined to keep the pace.  Even when I am starting to feel better and feel like I am back to normal.. The brace helps me remember what I need to do.  But it is nice to feel like I am healing and that I won't always have to be so careful.    

So two more months in the brace.  Then, not sure what the next step is.  I know I won't totally heal until 6-7 months, so I am sure there will still be limits.  Hopefully I will be able to do some significant exercise like spinning.  In my mind, that seems like a good exercise for back recovery.  We will see what the experts say!

But until then, I am walking!  Only walking.  I usually walk about 2 miles, but yesterday I made it to 3 and felt good.  I just started listening to a book series called The Walk by Richard Paul Evans.  I have read them before and really like the story.  In fact, I don't know of any of his books that I have not liked!  This series is about a man who loses his wife and his business and decides to walk from Seattle to Key West.  I am only letting myself listen while I am walking.  This will make me walk more because I love the story.  You should read it too!  You would enjoy it!  Or maybe you can listen to it while you walk or run and it will motivate you to move too! 

Monday, January 3, 2022

Moving into 2022


As many people have posted on Facebook, Christmas cards did not go out this year!  So I am revisiting writing an annual family letter.  2021 is behind us and I don't need to tell anyone about all the bad things that happened in our country last year!  But I did want to let anyone interested know what has happened in our family.

We started out 2021 with Dave recovering from shoulder surgery in December 2020.  He did great with his recovery and PT exercises.  We also bought a camper in November 2020 which was fun to start using.  Dave's truck was only able to take the camper on shorter, flat trips, so jump ahead to Fall 2021...Dave got a bigger truck!




We took two camping trips in the winter; and Amy ran her Mississippi Half in February in Jackson, MS.  Then Camden ran his first Half in TN with Amy in May.  







Nathan finished out his Junior year at the University of South Carolina  in May and Camden graduated from the 8th grade at the Charleston Christian School in June.  


Zach Harley attended Camden's graduation with Nathan

In June, Dave and Amy were able to take a trip to Wyoming and Montana to celebrate their 50th birthdays!  Amy was able to run in two different states; and Dave was able fly-fish in Yellowstone National Park; and the Snake River in Wyoming.  It was 10 days of the best vacation we have ever taken!









During the summer, Nathan had an internship with the social media department of Halls Columbia Chophouse in addition to working there.  He did his Senior journalism semester in the Fall by writing for the Carolina News and Reporter.  He finished the semester strong with only one more to go before graduation! 


Camden ran club track in the spring and qualified to run in the USATF national meet in Jacksonville, FL in July.  He continued his running by joining the cross country team when he started high school in August.  He had a great season and lettered in cross country!  He also made the JV basketball team.  He is enjoying high school.  







Amy and Camden were also able to take a trip to South Dakota for her to run another half and to see Mt. Rushmore.  It was another incredible trip that was able to happen because of Amy's goal of running a half in all 50 states.  










Camden volunteered to hand out medals!


Hiking in the Badlands


Hiking in Custer State Park

In October, Dave came down with the dreaded Covid!  He was quarantined upstairs and fortunately, Amy and Camden didn't get it.  Dave was very sick and he definitely had some lingering effects, but he did recover and is doing well.   

He also lost his last two grandparents.  His two grandmothers in CA both died this past year.  His Grandmother Shirley would have turned 100 in January (like Betty White); and his Grandmother Madden would have turned 91 in December.  They both had lived long lives, however, it was hard to lose them.  

In November, after having had rain cancellations 3 times, Nathan and Camden finally got to do their Christmas presents from 2020!  Nathan got to drive a race car and Camden got to ride with a professional driver!  They got to do this at Darlington and loved it!





In December, it was Amy's turn for surgery  After trying to work through what she thought was an IT band issue, she found out in July that she had a displaced vertebrae and needed surgery.  So in December, she had back surgery.  It made for an interesting, although more restful Christmas season.  Lots of sitting, walking and not lifting things over 10 lbs!  At least for Amy...Dave had to do extra work and driving to help out.       



When Amy was cleared to drive, we bought another car and sold her old one to Nathan.  Since it was the week of Christmas, she wanted a bow on the car so it could be a present Christmas morning.  We didn't get to keep the bow, but we did get a cool picture!
Heading into 2022, we will have less money due to our two new to us cars!!!


Overall, 2021 had a lot of downs, but many good times also!  And having now gone through back surgery and 4 weeks into recovery, I can  say that God is Good and He alone is the reason for my joy and peace.  One of my favorite verses is Isaiah 43:2...."When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through the fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you."    

Happy New Year to all who have read about our family!  My prayer is that this year will bring you joy and happiness!  And that it will bring us all times to run!   Hopefully my recovery will involve another half this year....not only for myself, but for Nathan and Camden too!